My Secret to Achieving New Year’s Resolutions
Every year, people of all types vow to change something about themselves the next year. We vow to give up sweets, go to the gym, or to meditate. We promise to do better at our jobs, to find love, to get in the best shape of our lives, to learn a new skill or hobby. You probably think this is going somewhere profound.
While I know most resolutions are forgotten, the principle is still good. We start the year eager to make a change, to improve, to better ourselves and our lives. Just because we fall off the wagon, is no reason not to get on the wagon at all. So how do you set resolutions that you can meet? Principle is great and all, but you want to achieve them too right?
Here’s my super secret: Every year I set resolutions I know I can meet. Simple right? I choose things I’m already doing (like exercising or eating better), or things I’ve already begun working on (like a novel or trip). I start confident. Some might think it’s cheating, but so what? I’m meeting my resolutions and that other person isn’t, so there! Your resolution is yours alone. If you’re dedicating yourself to improvement, that’s all that matters.
Now that wretched 2017 is over, what is my resolution? It’s probably obvious. I want to begin my new life as a travel writer. Seeing as I’m leaving my job at the end of the year and taking my first trip in January, this is obviously set in stone. I don’t need to do anything except give it my all while traveling. I won’t have to think too hard about this resolution, because this was already my goal for the year.
Alright, I’ll add a few more that I’ll have to work at, but still ones that follow my super secret. I’ll become intermediate in Chinese. I’m upper beginner now, so this seem feasible if I keep studying. How about I’ll also stick with being pescatarian when I know traveling will make it hard? That’s a promise to myself. Are you seeing a pattern in my resolution types and why they are more likely to succeed and traditional resolutions?
But Shelby, if you’re already doing things, why make a resolution at all, you might ask? Because it’s good to start a new year with a goals, ambition, and optimism. A resolution doesn’t have to be a complete transformation or something brand new that you’ll start Jan 1st that you vow to master in a year. That’s just silly and sets you up for failure. So mine are more like short term goals. I don’t cut something from my life or overburden myself with new routines and restrictions. I encourage myself and challenge myself with goals I’ve been working on and want to reach the next step. Which do you think will see success?
So tell me. What are your resolutions (short term goals) for 2018? Are you taking my advice and going with something you’ve already planning on succeeding at? Something to take you just a step further? Or are you taking the traditional route with something extreme?
Remember, it’s okay if you fail or don’t quite reach your goal. The purpose of resolutions is to have a moment where we strive to be better.